How to Survive Valentine's Day as a Single Gal

It’s another Valentine’s Day!!!!

As a single person, I know most people are imagining I’ll spend the day as such…

Well two things: I hate ice cream and I am not that really sad about being single this year. 

It’s my third Valentine’s Day as a single gal. Cuffing season was ‘round September/October; I clearly did not get picked up and am sailing as a free agent. It’s really no surprise so no need to cry.

All my single friends are trying to make plans to go out to the bar, go to the movies or whatever to avoid the sting of reminders that we are single. I’ll admit, it does suck seeing people be showered with love and grand gestures. I’m a sappy for grand gestures and public displays of affection; it’s my jam. But to lower the amount of gut-wrenching jealousy (cus that’s partially what it is), here are a few tips to survive Valentine's Day if you are single. 

GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA!!!!

Listen, people are going to be all over Facebook, Twitter and Instagram showing what they got from their boos and baes or what they did for them. They should be able to flaunt their love for the world to see; they deserve it. Until the sting of loneliness subsides, you might wanna stay away. You can even go as far as muting people. It’s for your own mental health. We all are going to catch a glimpse of the green eyed monster today; it’s normal but don’t get on the internet and hate scroll.THAT’S NOT A GOOD LOOK! 

Dress Up For YOU!

I’m not sure about you all but I still have to work today! I wish it was a holiday that required the day off but c’est la vie. So while I have to waste 8 hours at my desk, I’m going to make sure I look good to make me feel good. I love dressing up and throwing on a good beat face (I’m writing this before actual Valentine’s Day so let’s hope I stick to this)! As I do the work to make sure I’m good on the inside, the outside is starting to take better shape. I have fallen in love with me. Although I’m not physically where I want to be, I’m still able to look in the mirror and be like DAYYYYUUMMMM!!!! So dress up for you so you can remember how bad of a bitch you are! 

Stay in!

Again, everyone is trying to make plans to keep busy tomorrow. Quite honestly, I really don’t feel like it. Why try so hard to avoid what’s cold hard facts?! I ain’t got no man! But I’m okay with that. I don’t need to hide from it or drown my sorrows in drinks (probably not a good idea anyway). I’d much rather stay in, watch some good comedy movies to make me laugh and maybe stuff my face with a heart shaped pizza. This is something I do on a normal weekend so it won’t feel like another avoiding technique. 

Meditate!

It’s okay to be lonely. It’s a normal feeling. I really wish for you to find happiness with being the amazing person you are! Companionship is great but there’s really no better feeling than loving yourself. It’s a different kind of glow. You feel like you’re gliding on air! I’m not completely there yet but the good moments I have are life changing. The best way to help me feel my best is meditating.

Now meditating is hard af for me. I think I have to block out all the noise but it’s impossible in my house. Instead, I use my meditation to tune into my mindfulness. I’ve been practicing body scanning. It’s such a helpful tool to get me in tune with how I am feeling physically and taking control over how to manage it. Being worried about loneliness can really tense a girl up. Body scanning can put you in control of your feelings and help you get your mind off things in a healthy way! 

It’s tough my baby! Being surrounded by something we all strive for but not obtaining it can be painful. It may make you feel unwanted or unloved; you’re not. The higher powers have put people in your life that love, cherish and adore you. Also, it just may not be your time. Your grand love is on its way sweetie! There’s someone for everyone and I hope this is your last Valentine’s Day alone!!!! If not, I’ll be your Valentine next year!